Wednesday, April 8, 2009

Emotional WHAT?

I am a crier...not the bawling, blubbering, sobbing sort of crier you may be thinking of. I am the sort that gets tears in my eyes when something touches me in some way, it does not even need to be sad or especially emotional. Maybe I am not a crier more of a wet eye kind of girl. Not always convenient, frequently down right inappropriate.

I am fortunate to be able to keep it together when I am working although there are some times as I am taking care of someone I feel that little tug that comes before I sense my eyes are starting to look moist.

I hate this defect! I have even looked into a name for this awful condition. Do you know what they call it? It is called "Emotional Incontinence". Great, that alone is reason enough for me to reach for the tissues and call Dr. Phil. If only an adult diaper would solve this problem!

Since I am getting all personal with you let me share something else. This year my kids were all sick during parent/teacher conferences.

What did I do you ask?

I made my husband go to the conference so I could stay home with the kids.


Not for the reason you may think. It was because Trevor and Elise's 2nd grade teacher makes me cry. Can you believe it? I can be brought to tears by a 2nd grade teacher telling me how good or bad my kids are doing at school.

I think I might make her uncomfortable when my eyes start to glisten. That one unpredictable parent that might lose it at the drop of a hat. It is never more then silent tears in the eyes, but we all know they are there. I am hoping she is extra nice to them at school just because she thinks their Mom must be a train wreck at home!

CRAZY...maybe you should move on now, find another blog to read because I must be nuts! Just back out of the room, I may not even notice. Don't take it personally if I shed a tear.

I would love to find something that keeps this in check. It is not even like I am sad. I just get teary for no reason. It seems to be worse with people I do not know well, anxiety? Hell if I know! If they find a cure I will call my doctor everyday crying until they offer it to me. Actually my doctor might not be a hard sell, she makes me cry too!

Do you have a physical/emotional trait you just hate? Anyone need a tissue? I have plenty here.


Anonymous said...

LOL! Seriously? Emotional incontinence? How crazy is that? But YOU, my new bloggie friend, are not crazy. Two of my favorite non-virtual friends suffer the same condition. They look at me and start to cry. Their crying makes me laugh. That in turn causes them to cry more, which makes me laugh harder. This goes on and on! It is ridiculous! But I love them to pieces and do not think of them or you as having a defect. I think it is an indication of an extremely empathetic, caring individual.

Great post!

Evil Twin's Wife said...

I tear up all the time. I have cried in front of my son's principal. It's hard when someone points out a possible flaw in your child or whatever. I also get teary eyed at some gooey commercials and I know I'm going to cry when I see Cinderella's Castle in person in a few weeks. So, if you're crazy, I'm in good company.

JAN'S PLACE said...

I have no idea where this genetic disorder came from..emotional incontinence, huh...sniff sniff sniff, anyone have a tissue?

Kate Smedley said...

I don't think it's a bad thing, I think you are human,I cry at films, at memories, at songs, with laughter, you keep going!

Amber Rose said...

Oh I never's really a problem, instead I just shove my face full of the closest pasta I can get my chubby little fingers on!! I'm not sure you should be so sad about Emotional Incontinence..girl it could be worse;)

Hit 40 said...

Oh... I have many many that cry at conferences. You are not alone!!!! Sometimes the dad will even join in for the cry. This is why we usually have tissues on the table for you. If no tissue, bad karma to that teacher!!!

Ali said...

Sometimes I dont think I have any emotions. When I had my son I couldnt get a tear out! But then I cry at the dumbest commercials...go figure lol

So...I heard you have Blogger's Block =) So....write about your fav Easter tradition! or food...or candy! Good luck and have wonderful weekend!

Just A Mom (Call me JAM for short) said...

Hey Tami, Bloggers Block?!! Stop by VGNO. Ann does the thinking for us!

Happy Friday! Enjoy your weekend!

Evil Twin's Wife said...

Blogger Block? Open the floor for questions! Readers LOVE that! And it makes your job much easier! :-) Win-win.

Stacy (the Random Cool Chick) said...

I'm a crier, too - Hallmark commercials? Need a tissue... Emotionally charged anything? You betcha... :)

I hear you have Bloggers Block - it happens to the best of us... Ali and JAM mentioned the ideas I was going to mention, so there ya go... ;) And I like Evil Twin's Wife suggestion on opening the floor for questions...I might have to try that one, too! :)

Have a great weekend and Happy Easter! :)

Ann said...

I'm a crier too! I wasn't before I had children, but they bring it out in me.
Geez, since children I feel more empathy, guilt and anger.
(I better stop, I can hear the song "Feelings" start to play :-> )

*I'm visiting you from Jan's place

The Good Cook said...

OMG - Thank you. I now have a name for my condition that has plagued me all my life. Emotional Incontinence.

I cry at church, at songs on the radio, television ads (have you seen the new anti smoking ad where the little boy looses his mom in the subway??) My children make me cry, pictures of my grandchildren. Movies, books, conversations with friends. My dog made me cry the other day. You name it, I leak.

My husband, bless his heart, doesn't laugh anymore at me, but gently slips his arm around my shoulders. :-)

Take heart - I think we are incredibly connected, caring people. You can't nurse, mother, feed, or other wise nurture without feeling greatly.

And I think you would have made a great cop!